Before we did this retrospective I had a talk with Scott and Ebru, because we had a feeling that there was something going on with Frederique, because we did not feel like she had enough motivation (arriving late, working on other things, etc).
Because of the above concerns we talked with Frederique and she said that there were some things going on that she did not want to discuss right now and she wanted to wait till we had group coaching. She did say that there were some things with open communication that she did not like. She did not want to elaborate on this but assured us that we did not do anything wrong. The three of us were concerned that she did not feel safe to express her feelings with us, but she said that that was not the case. One other thing that she said is that she felt like she could not work on her learning goals, so we made that a priority during the retrospective and made a goal about it.
We did do our normal retrospective and we talked about how we can get ourselves to work harder. For this we made a new system called show-and-tell where every morning we say what we want to achieve and every afternoon we show our achievements. We also want to focus more on saying no to feedback instead of doing everything what everyone else says.
Reflection
What I learned from this is that sometimes people do not have motivation and you can not help and in that case you need to let it go, because I had a hard time letting the above troubles go because we were having a bad time because we felt bad and we did not achieve as much as we wanted. Instead I should next time focus on myself and my own achievements and try to not feel bad because of one group member.
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